In an inspiring TED Talk with the title “How to make hard choices“, philosopher Ruth Chang presents an interesting perspective on hard choices:
When we create reasons for ourselves to become this kind of person rather than that, we wholeheartedly become the people that we are. You might say that we become the authors of our own lives.
The talk is not only interesting, giving more background on why she has come to this conclusion, but also quite entertaining. So I recommend that you see it for yourself, if you are just the slightest bit intrigued.